I have been making a lot of noise lately about readers commenting and sharing here. Why is that? Well it is because the venue where I publish some of my articles does not tolerate any form of adult language. Unfortunately, many men don’t seem to understand this no matter how often I say it, and to be fair, many of them probably just don’t know that they’ve stumbled into a semi puritanical zone. I often end up having to moderate away comments which were quite excellent because they would break the TOS of Hub Pages. Unfortunately, readers seem insistent on commenting there, not here, and on writing essays in the comments there rather than here, so I implore you one last time.
If you have something to say that involves even slightly adult terms (‘sex’, ‘fetish,’ ‘transexual’, etc,) then write it here. Not there. It will more than likely be deleted into oblivion over there.
However, to preserve some of the comments in which a great deal of effort has been expended, I will occasionally publish them here, along with a link to the article they were published on for context’s sake.
On How Women Pick Their Panties
Julliette – Jullianne says:
Exploring into the topic of ones delight for things feminine and crossdressing, while comfortably and securely grounded as a happy male, I find today, increasingly, a great sense of ease, confusion dissipated, comfort throughout with who I am and a heightened happiness with the feelings I feel. Feelings and emotions which are described definitively as being from what is ascribed to the feminine.
Here I have pieced together some descriptions of things dear and true, which I found surfing for scholarly articles to gain further understanding on what makes, me Julliette and you Jullianne, tick.
On expressing ones hidden personality characteristics, the author wrote: ‘crossdressing allows some men the opportunity to express portions of their personalities that this society does not accept in “masculine” men. While these characteristics, such as gentleness, passivity, and emotional sensitivity, are neither specifically feminine nor masculine, they are most commonly associated with women. Some men also report that they have the need to be flirtatious, to feel beautiful and glamorous, or to act passive and helpless. The transvestite feels most free to express these traits only when he is dressed as a woman.
On that last sentence, it is quite true for me. I am so happy to come out, as it were, and say so. That idea of being seen as glamourous, or romanticised like some ephemeral elphin princess.
The broad range of motives listed in ‘Reasons for Male to Female Crossdressing’ published by the Renaisance Transgender Association 2001, supports the notion that transvestism is not a simplistic behavior focused on sex and/or sexuality, but perhaps a response to a complex and interrelated group of needs, some of which are far removed from sexual issues and closely aligned with gender roles.
On Erotic arousal/fetishism it notes that, often this is the transvestite’s first and primary association with feminine clothing. Many times, the person is initially aroused by lingerie, perhaps by its connection with the boudoir, or by the tactile sensations these clothes present. The article also notes that for transvestites, the ultimate result is that they begin dressing in the clothes even though that may not have been their original intent.
Then their is the ‘Relief form Tension’ observing that some transvestites say that they dress when they are feeling extreme pressure in their male lives.
When considering this it points to much that seems so accurate for me, that there are definite pressures that build up in ones life as a male, from time as a young boy to adult and parenthood. Expectations, codes and rules of behaviour.
The authors goes on to say that; for some of these men, the act of wearing women’s clothes allows them to “step away” from masculinity and all that society expects of men. Other men report while they enjoy playing a traditional masculine role, their cross-dressing provides a welcome refuge. These motives are related to the expression of hidden personality characteristics.
This seems to resonate for me. I hope you too will find some value and questions addressed.
And then their is Creativity, where the author writes:
