I have received not one, but two separate comments today on various articles from men who wear lingerie and whose female partners either agreed to it up front, then changed their minds after 16 years, or who refuse to allow their men to wear lingerie at all.
First, here are the comments along with the articles they were posted to, following that, my response to men who find themselves in this situation.
Want To Wear Panties and Dresses But The Wife Says No?:
JimmyC20593 says:
Hope. Thanks for this Hub. My wife and I have been married 15 yrs and together for 22 years. I told her about how I liked to wear panties after 6 months of dating and she embraced it. It lead to us wearing matching panties each day, no thongs or cotton lingerie for us. We had numerous matching night gowns and matching baby-doll nighties w/panties we wore to bed, hosiery of all types, a few bras and slips and camisoles that were a match to hers also and a dress or 2 of my own. She was never worried about me looking better or sexier in my lingerie than she did in hers which is what made it fun. I would come home at the end of my work day and change into a casual tank style dress to lounge in until it was time bed. I even went out to pick up food in the drive in wearing this outfit. I received a few looks but never anything bad.
Balancing your love life and your lingerie life can be difficult, and some men struggle with it. It is important to maintain balance however, nobody wants to live a life entirely alone but surrounded by frilly lace.
On the whole, I advise men who wear women’s lingerie to always tell their partners, but sometimes that’s just not entirely practical or suitable. There are a few situations in which I would not advise telling a female partner that you wear women’s lingerie.
Because I write a lot for men who wear women’s clothing, I also interact with a great deal of men who aspire to femininity. There’s nothing wrong with that in itself, but occasionally I get the sense, (and occasionally it is spelled out for me very plainly,) that a man thinks that women are actually better than men. Sometimes a man might even be convinced that men are nearly worthless and women are better.
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, especially when it comes to relationship compatibility issues, and this applies to everyone and everything, not just men who wear women’s clothes.
A bonus, weekend length article about an issue which affects all men who wear women’ s clothing at one time or another…
Good news ladies! There is a whole untapped wellspring of male talent hiding under your very noses. Men who wear lingerie. Not quite cross dressers, not quite the traditional male, these men walk a fine line; embracing their masculine side, but also honoring the feminine. I know there has been a swing in popularity away from the SNAG (sensitive new age guys) and back towards caveman Og and his club, but ladies, you may not want to let your personal pendulums swing you right past a subset of male society made up of men who have the ability to make the women they love very happy indeed.
