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Why I Don’t Wear Girly Things

Hope — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:19:34 +0000

One of my readers recently wrote an awesome article about what he called ‘deny-vestites’, (if you want to read it, you can do so here) women who don’t wear feminine clothing, who instead prefer simple clothing of a more androgynous kind and who don’t bother too much about make up. He was surprised when I replied back and said that I thought his article was brilliant and that I myself could probably identify as a ‘deny-vestite.’ His response was one of surprise. How could I write about women’s clothing and lingerie so much if I didn’t wear a great deal of uber feminine things?

What If Men and Women Really Were Equal?

Hope — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 00:51:47 +0000

Like many of you, I grew up being told that girls can do anything that boys could do, but as a biological set bonus, they also got the power to bleed for several days every month and bear live young . It was the mid 80′s when feminism was hot and hip and terribly important. Gender equality was all the rage then, and some people would say that we are closer to true gender equality than ever before, but are we really? And what would happen if we actually achieved true gender equality? Take a look into the magical pool of equality and see what the world would be like if men and women truly were equal.

Deny-Vestites – Crossdressing Women

Hope — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 18:18:56 +0000

This is an article written by Dusty, a He Wears Panties reader. I think that it raises very salient points and indeed, holds great insight into why some women dress the way they do and would rather poke their eyes out with a mascara wand than actually wear mascara.

If you have something you’d like to post about on He Wears Panties, send it along to hope@hewearspanties.com .

It’s been broadly accepted opinion that nowadays there are virtually no female crossdressers. This conclusion is based on observation that women can today wear pretty much anything without being judged, categorized or even frown upon in the sexual, social, family, maturity or any other value system.

While I fully agree with the latter one, only recently I discovered that I do not agree with the former one. I used to, but not any longer.

You see, I am a male crossdresser. The typical one: middle aged, married, hetero, great in many things, envied by many others, but with that one little “flaw”: I like the feeling and appearance of fine lingerie on my body, of makeup, stockings and those divine, cruel things: heels.

As with many other typical guys in my situation, my wife is NOT understanding. She does know, but she, basically, resents my fetish. Actually, I changed opinion on that one, too. I used to think, and spent quite some time to get myself to the point to admit to myself, that I have a fetish: women’s clothing. Now I started to change the view on that one: it is not ME who is ascribing to clothes some meaning they do not have, I am attracted to them for the feel and look, and that’s exactly what they are made for. It is OTHER PEOPLE who ascribe them some other meaning and value, when they are shocked that a man could wear them, and it is THEM who ascribe some properties to such a man. Properties which have
nothing to do with look and feel, but rather properties like: sexuality, social life, family, … etc.

Now, let’s get back on to the topic of women. Well, my wife not only dislikes to see me in the feminine clothes, she dislikes to see herself, too. Her preferable clothing style is “invisible”: no vivid colors, no unusual cuts, not much body display or enhancement. Simple and utilitarian. Actually, even further to the limits: her style is to minimize, disguise her own femininity. She does not dress as a man, she is not a transvestite, but she deliberately chooses clothes that would not express her femininity. The best way to describe her wardrobe is: as much non-feminine as possible without being masculine.

When this occurred to me recently, I realized that I know several women like that. Actually, you can see them all around you, every minute there will be another one passing by. Now that I wrote all this, it seems to me that she is neither a crossdresser. Perhaps we need a new term, something like deny-vestite, a person who denies her own gender role, without assuming some other role. All those women we see each day who reject any idea to wear vivid colors or clothes complimenting their bodies basically are crossdressers. However, they do not do it for the sake of look and feel those clothes provide them but rather because they disagree with societal stereotypes of what a women should wear.

The good news for them is that everyone seems to accept heir crossdressing without fear, testing, teasing, ridiculing. Something their fellow male crossdressers can only dream to achieve one nice day in deep future.

Should Women Rule The World? You Decide!

Hope — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 01:59:19 +0000

Men are often blamed for all the problems in the world, and some people say that if women were in charge, the world would be a better place. But this this true? I don’t know if there is really any independent, scientific sort of way to find this out, but we can certainly discuss our opinions on the matter if nothing else.

Where Did Men’s Lace Frills And Bows Go?

Hope — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:52:16 +0000

At one time, men wore lace frills and bows with the best of them. As late as the 18th century, in the days of Louis XVI, nobles wore frills and bows and high heels as a matter of course. In fact, at some times, it was difficult to say where the frills ended and the man began. France has always lead the world in fashion, or so it seems, and in those times, frills and bows were also popular in the English court as well as throughout most of Europe.

Before You Throw All Your Lingerie Away…

Hope — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 21:47:57 +0000

Leonardo Di Caprio may hold the secret to saving your lingerie collection...

So you’re thinking about throwing all your lingerie out. You don’t need it and you shouldn’t be wearing it. At least, that’s what you think. This may be the first time you have bought lingerie and thrown it out, this may be the 50^th time you’ve been through the cycle of lingerie binge and purge. Before you quite literally toss your hard earned money out the door, read this and see if you can’t save yourself a little money and sanity.

Would You Be Loved More If You Were A Woman?

Hope — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 05:54:06 +0000

A reader left a comment on one of my articles, and I thought it went to the very heart of why some men like pretending to be women. He said:

“For those of us who are touch with our feminine side, I truly believe we do the best we can do to provide that comfort for our girlfriends or wives, so it seems unselfish to me to try to create an environment where we might possibly be able to feel some of that love and comfort”

It would seem then, that some men associate femininity with being loved, cared for and protected.

Lady Pirates And Women’s Liberation

Hope — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:57:56 +0000

Back in the days of piracy, there were hardly any lady pirates relative to the plethora of male pirates swarming the high seas buckling their swashes. Now don’t get me wrong, there were some lady pirates, however the bulk of them were forced to don male clothing and pretend to be men so as to not tip a scurvy crew right over the edge. Some female pirates even became pirate captains, but they still wore male pirate dress, and when they had the odd baby, as you do, they would usually dropped off somewhere on an island to be raised by people who were generally less swashbuckling. Day care on a pirate ship generally consisted of a tot of rum and a swim in a pickle jar.

Read on….

Is The Female The Highest Form Of Evolution?

Hope — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 08:22:13 +0000

With so many men being interested in being women, and with so many men becoming more effeminate on the whole, one has to ask oneself, is the female form the highest form of human evolution?

Are Cross Dressing Men Offensive To Women?

Hope — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 09:25:12 +0000

I wrote an article recently titled ‘Why Women Find Cross Dressing Men Scary‘, an article which reflected on the way that cross dressing men can sometimes be quite intimidating because of the ‘uber’ feminine appearance and manner they have.

One reader, Tracy, made a comment which was perhaps tangential to the initial point of the article, but which I think has a great deal of merit and definitely deserves discussion.