A few months ago, I made a decision after some consultation with members of the He Wears Panties forum to remove the picture and adult sections from the forum. This came as a surprise to some, although I did post a thread about the matter, not everyone reads every thread ever posted and as it was posted in the general section. It felt a wee bit heavy handed and dictatorial at the time, but nobody came for me and my shiny gold hat and pistols, so that was okay.

I made the change not because I have any real objection to discussions of a more adult nature or pictures of men wearing lingerie but because the tone of the discourse that ensued in these areas of the forum didn’t mesh well with the overall aim of the site.

There was a significant traffic dip after the removal of those sub-forums which I figured would happen, but it did not overly concern me because frankly, this site isn’t about masses of traffic. It’s about supporting men who want to make fashion choices that deviate from the sometimes viciously enforced gender norms.

Since that time, I’ve been really encouraged by how gracefully everyone has gone with the change and how vigorous and interesting the discussion is in the forums. They’re a very positive place to be and though I don’t overtly poke my nose in too often (not wanting to break the flow and whatnot) I do keep an eye on the place and I’m very happy with what I see there. There’s some great practical advice for men who wear and purchase lingerie and a lot of camaraderie and emotional support as well. All this was there before the picture and adult sections were removed of course, but I think by removing them the site has really found a nice focus.

There’s always been two sides to this pretty coin of men wearing women’s clothing. One one side there’s a sort of progressive, egalitarian, almost human rights based approach to the issue, and on the other, the more carnal approach we’re all more than familiar with I would imagine. I think the fetish aspect of the issue is covered at length already in a number of venues, but He Wears Panties has something unique to offer above and beyond that.

If you haven’t checked out the forum yet, please feel free to. There’s a link at the top of the sidebar that will take you there. Just read the joining guidelines and don’t get too upset if your application to join takes a few days. I manually approve memberships (which is why you don’t have spammers selling you erectile aids and football jerseys on the site) so it does take a few days sometimes.

Back in 2000, Trey Parker and Matt Stone wore dresses to the Academy Awards – and not just any dresses, reproductions of J Lo’s Versace dress and Gwyneth Paltrow’s Ralph Lauren gown. You might say that this has only the barest of relevance to anything happening today, and you might be correct, but I like posting pictures of men wearing dresses dammit, especially reproduction designer dresses. Trey looks pretty good in that wig too. I’ve always been a sucker for long hair on men.

You’ll notice that the main sponsor of this site is Her Room. There’s more than one reason for this. Of course they supply a wide range of lingerie at decent prices and are known to have pretty good customer service (as reported by several readers of this blog), but over and above this, they openly support men who wear lingerie. This is evidenced by the page aimed openly and unashamedly at male wearers of lingerie on their website. A reader linked me to the page, which impressed me thoroughly with its very useful tips that help men find women’s lingerie that will fit and feel good. It’s great to see retailers responding to the market in a progressive and helpful manner, and it’s wonderful that some of the biggest online lingerie retailers are not only acknowledging that men wear lingerie, but are more than willing to help them find lingerie they’ll love!

Here are some of the popular panties as picked by male customers according to Her Room:

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Okay, so it’s not exactly lingerie, but it is clothing probably designed for a woman – and he looks more than a little desirable wearing it, in my frank opinion.

Thanks to all those who left comments of welcome on the Shadow Thong post the other day. What a wonderful response! I have manual approvals on for spam control so they didn’t appear right away, but I’ve just caught up with them now, they were very nice and put a big smile on my face

It has been a long and I do mean long time since I blogged on the site, but after a lengthy break, I think I’m ready to return to the serious business of lingerie for men, and lingerie for women that men also wear. I’m starting back reviewing a series of panties I think would work well for men.

The Natori Shadow Thong has slipped its way into my good graces by merit of the sense of subtlety and secretiveness about it. Not all men who wear lingerie can do so publicly, and the shadow thong seems to understand that. This mesh fronted panty doesn’t draw any undue attention to itself.  The thong cut ensures that there won’t be any visible panty line to give you away, but the contrast lace insert in the crotch embraces all things frilly and feminine.

It comes in two colors, black and nude and it’s on sale now for $17.99! Final closeout!

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This is the final part of the series from GR8legs about meeting his anima. This has been a really interesting and insightful series and I’ll be posting it as a complete page soon. My thanks to Gr8legs for his considerable contribution to the site and to readers’ understandings of what it is for one man to wear women’s clothing.

Crossing the Rubicon

Following on from the elation that I‘d felt after trying the waist cincher for size before buying, I once again found myself in the same shopping centre on the Friday. As I wandered around, I found myself being drawn into one particular shop. I had never had the intention, nor did I feel I would ever move into the world of also wearing female outer garments, but as I was browsing in the store I found myself seeking out a skirt and top, as well as a belt to complete the outfit.

That evening my girlfriend came to my house and I dressed in the outfit to show her my new purchases. She loved the outfit and I talked with her about “Ava”. As we were standing outside on the patio, I walked across to put my empty beer bottle in the rubbish bin. I strode across in a relaxed, confident manner and when I returned to stand beside my girlfriend, she put her arms around my neck, gave me a big kiss and with a bigger smile told me that she’d never seen me so relaxed & confident in all the time she’s known me. She then said that she likes Ava and that she’s glad I’ve finally made friends with her.
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This is just a quick note to those of you who like reading my articles about fashion in general, not only those ones pertaining directly to men wearing women’s clothing, that I have a new site running that will have a great deal of fashion ideas, trends and even advice. It’s fashion editorial, Hope style

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Hope to see you there

I know I said I wouldn’t be doing this anymore, and I don’t intend to do it too often, but I thought this article might be of interest to those of you who take an interest in the differences between men’s clothing and women’s clothing. This started off as an article about a purse, and morphed into one of my typical observational rants about clothing and gender inequality. You might enjoy it.

Purses never cease to amaze me. Actually the whole fact that women’s attire is still designed in such a way that the woman is functionally defenseless continues to amaze me.

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This is the second post in what will be a series from our friend and moderator Gr8legs. It’s his personal tale of becoming acquainted and comfortable with his feminine side, panty wearing and cross-dressing. It’s a lovely deep read and my sincere thanks go to Gr8legs for sharing this with us all.

Meeting “Ava”

Recently I have found myself able to be a little more open about wearing female attire. Since I began reading Hope’s articles around 7 months ago, my level of acceptance of my love of lingerie has grown, in the same way that the sense of shame & guilt I’ve carried about it has diminished. This has also been helped greatly by the fact that new lady in my life not only accepts this, but actually enjoys it and finds it to be quite a turn-on.

I love pantyhose and tights. I have been wearing them either under my trousers when I’m out and about, or when I’m at home alone for more than a year now. It has now reached the stage where I almost no longer feel “normal” if I am not wearing hosiery in some form. I have taken to wearing tights with shorts when going home from the gym. I wear black opaque tights. They feel more comfortable than wearing long trousers over my legs after a workout, as I find that, the material of the trousers can cling to my legs in a manner that is most uncomfortable. Tights, on the other hand, cover my legs and keep the chill off them, but without clinging and restricting movement. The first time I did this I was a bit apprehensive. I put them on in the men’s changing room in front of and whilst talking to a couple of guys who had been participants in my boxing circuit class. Neither of them batted an eyelid or even gave them a second glance as I rolled up the legs and rolled them up my legs, pulled my shorts over the top of them & stuck my feet in my shoes. (more…)

Found this on the Internet and just had to post it, a lovely advertisement that does more than just sell cars, it actually embraces modernity and the advancement of open hearts and minds. Lovely.

This is the first post in what will be a series from our friend and moderator Gr8legs. It’s his personal tale of becoming acquainted and comfortable with his feminine side, panty wearing and cross-dressing. It’s a lovely deep read and my sincere thanks go to Gr8legs for sharing this with us all.

If you’d like to make a guest post on He Wears Panties, feel free to email me: hope-alexander@hotmail.com

Last week, I made friends with my Anima. She’s been with me all of my life and right throughout my life she’s tried to let me know she’s there, but in a some ways I’ve felt more than a little ashamed and embarrassed about her. You see, the society in which we live is very much defined by stereotypes that are invented and promoted by the media, stereotypes that reinforce the way we see and perceive both other people and, more importantly, ourselves. From an early age, around the time we start school, we are told that little boys are made of “rats and snails and puppy dogs’ tails”, whereas little girls are made of “sugar and spice and all things nice”. Furthermore, big boys don’t cry.

Over the years I have had straight and gay friends of both genders. Indeed, most of my closest and enduring friendships have been with females and, unlike many of my male friends, I have always felt perfectly comfortable in otherwise exclusively female company. As a young boy I would play sports, race my bicycle with my friends, climb trees and engage in typically masculine “adventurous” activities. However, although I had no desire to play at “tea parties” or with dolls (other than Action Man soldier dolls), I would be quite happy to be in the company of and engage in other, non gender-specific games and activities, such as board games with girls.

In The Beginning

My first crossdressing memories were of wearing one of my Mum’s slips at around the age of 5. My Dad had died when I was very young and, although my Mum remarried, for a couple of years there were just the three of us (Mum, sister & I) in the house. At first Mum didn’t seem to mind, but then I suppose she got worried because it was becoming a regular thing. One day, she took the slip off me and threw it into the open fire, saying that it was dangerous for me to walk around the house dressed like that as a spark could set fire to the slip & I’d be burned.
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Thanks to Paula, who sent this post about his experiences as a man who wore panties during tours of duty in Iraq, and how he came to discover the joys and benefits of being a panty wearer.

If you’d like to contribute your own experiences or perspectives to the blog, please do email me: hope-alexander@hotmail.com

I am a 36 year old straight man that enjoys wearing panties. A little of my background: I doubt that anyone could call into question my masculinity. I had a career in the Army with three combat tours, led convoys around Baghdad, always scored highly on my physical fitness tests, and was in charge of my own platoon. I rose up through the ranks quite quickly, serving in many leadership position. I am also married and the father of two boys that are as into sports as I am.

Nothing about me looks or seems feminine, but just like others that have posted here, I had been frustrated with limited options of what was being sold/marketed for men to wear. I hate boxers in that I want support for my parts, and just can’t stand the look and feel of tighty-whities. I hate the feel of the rough cotton that we are limited to. Not only that, but there is no variety whatsoever in men’s underwear. After looking and looking, I was able to find some underwear made by Marona that was a micro-fiber type material. I started wearing those, but was still limited to black, white, and dark blue…that’s it. Let’s see, what should I wear today? Oooohhh, I get to choose from three. Kind of like when I was in the military: What should I wear today? How about green!

I discovered panties quite a few years ago when my wife as a joke, dared me to wear a pair of hers. I was hooked. They felt good, they supported me well, and I must admit, I got turned on as well. Throughout the years, she has gone back and forth on if she likes it or not. For a while we even shopped for panties together for me, and allowed me to wear them to bed along with a nightgown. Interesting, she “allowed” me, since when should me have to be “allowed” to do something? However, she is now totally against it, she does not like any bit of it even though I wish I could wear them 24/7. I have to actually hide the fact that I wear them, which I hate having to lie to her. BTW, if there are any women reading this that refuse to let your husband wear panties and lingerie, you are only forcing them to lie to you.

Not only do I love the feel and look of panties, but being the military had made me aggressive, combative, and assertive. Sometimes this is good, sometimes not. Wearing panties under my uniform was a good way of calming me down. At one point in the military, I almost had a breakdown where all the expectations of my family, my soldiers, and society got to be too much. I felt that I was carrying the burden of our nation on my shoulders, and along with that, my family. When people see a soldier they expect them to be the protector, the one to fight for the nation, a perfect example of manliness. Society does not allow a male soldier to show feeling, any kind of softness, or any type of weakness. That is a lot to carry on your shoulders. I don’t know when, but I started wearing panties once again under my uniform, and every once in a while, a bra or camisole. With our uniform tops, it was easy to hide. I didn’t wear a bra or camisole while deployed, but still wore panties.

A curious thing started happening. My soldiers told me that I was more approachable, my leadership style was more fair and balanced, and that I was able to listen and understand their problems that they brought to me better. The stress started melting away and I was able to function better. I became a better father and husband. So even though I love wearing panties due to the variety, feel, and the overall sexiness of it, there are some great side effects from wearing panties!