What If She Threatens To Tell People You Wear Panties?

There’s been quite a lot of discussion over on the board of late about being in a relationship and wearing panties. Some men have partners who understand and embrace their boyfriend or husband’s love for lingerie, others have partners who are less enthusiastic but accept it (or don’t) and other men hide it completely either for fear of being found out or because their SO has already foamed at the mouth at the very idea and they value their relationship more than they do being able to openly wear lingerie.

They say that women are the great romantics, but what I see in a lot of reports from men is that it is the men who seem to be genuinely concerned about the state and well-being of their relationships and their partner’s happiness, whereas the women are often concerned more with the serving of their own illusions and the using of sex and sexuality as a bargaining chip. Obviously this doesn’t apply to all women. There are plenty of women who understand that there are worse things in the world than wanting to wear panties, but those ones aren’t the ones involved in sometimes extremely vicious emotional and mental attacks on their partners when it comes to shaming them for wanting to wear lingerie.

You see, there is a potential downside to sharing the fact that you wear lingerie, and it’s not that your partner will up and leave you that instant. It’s that they will accept it, or feign acceptance and then later on turn around and abuse you for it, and often it seems, threaten to ‘out’ you to family and friends.
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Alegro Floral Waltz Plus Size Bra and Thong

Continuing on the plus size theme are these absolutely adorable, and may I say, ever so Moulin Rouge panties named ‘Floral Waltz’ by their creators, Alegro. I fell in love the moment I saw these, mostly because I love red on black and lace covered burgundy triggers that wonderful association in my brain. They’re a thong cut too, which I know a great many of you men who wear lingerie love. I’ve always found that a thong is one step up from being chased around by someone trying to atomic wedgie me all day, but if you like thongs, then may you have all the thongs you dream of. Including this one.

Click here for more on the Alegro Floral Waltz Thong!

Oh, and there’s also this matching bra, which is equally adorable and everyone knows that not getting the bra of a bra and panty set is pretty much akin to separating two kittens abandoned together at the side of the road who have bonded together against the world. The 3/4 cup coverage of this bra means that it won’t ride up too high on a male chest, but instead will sit low, possibly teasing you with a wardrobe malfunction.

Click here for more info on the Alegro Floral Waltz 3/4 bra.

Parfait Honey Plus Size Panties For Men

There’s a heck of a mouthful in the title there, but no more words than these panties deserve I’d say. The great news is that they come in plus sizes, so men who are a little larger than the average lady are able to get them in sizes that are both comfortable and flattering. These ‘Parfait Honey’ panties are yummy enough to eat, with charming mesh lace panels that take up a great deal of the panty surface, framing a flattering small triangle of silky black fabric in the center. Although now I think about it, I wonder if there was some sort of subconscious association going on when they gave panties designed for plus size people the same name as two delightful sugary foods.

Click here for more information about the Affinitas Intimates Parfait Honey Bikini Panty

Every Man Deserves Pink Cellulose Panties

This is a platform that might not get a politician elected, but it is an indubitable fact that just like every woman is worth it, every man deserves pink cellulose panties. If you can untangle that logic, you get a special prize: disillusionment and probably an existential crisis.

On a more upbeat note, pink panties for men!

Today I’m featuring this pair of pink hipster panties, which probably refers to the cut of the panties, but instead I’m going to go ahead and imagine that it refers to a group of men who were wearing panties before it was cool to wear panties. The little snaps along the crotch line of these put me somewhat in mind of a diaper, but hey, you can’t have everything. It’s a scientific impossibility. These panties are made of 70% modal, which is spun cellulose fiber, which is just downright innovative. They’re also on final closeout. So hurry. Or don’t. It’s up to you.

Click here to get these panties, or just inspect them more closely…

Lingerie Thought-Crime

So you’re a man who likes women’s lingerie. Maybe you like it because of the way it feels against your skin. Maybe you like it because it makes you feel feminine. There’s certainly nothing wrong with a man liking lingerie, but many men who do are all too aware that not every woman in the world shares that sentiment. Which brings up the question, does your partner have a ‘right’ to know about your lingerie?

If you have a supportive partner who accepts your desire to wear lingerie on occasion, and perhaps even supports it, then that is wonderful. But what if your partner is not so accepting? Should you DTMFA, (“Dump the Motherfucker Already”) as Dan Savage might say? Or should you hide away your lingerie desires and pursue them in secret? If you choose the latter option, does your partner have the right to freak out upon discovering your lingerie related activities, and should you feel guilty about it?

I’ve always said that a man should at least run his desire to wear lingerie by his partner, because it’s a part of his life and one’s partner should always be as much a part of one’s life as possible. But what if you do share and the response is highly negative? What do you do then? Well, the blanket answer for this sort of thing is being told to find another, more supportive partner. If you catch the issue early on in the relationship, it’s probably the best idea.

But life being what it is, it’s more than possible that you could be quite a long way into a relationship before you tell your partner. You could be married, with a house and kids and then what? Are you going to forego your vows and the inherent promise you made to your children when you created them to be there for something as relatively superficial as liking to wear lingerie? Probably not.

A great many men do end up in a position where their partner does not approve of or support their lingerie wearing but the relationship is otherwise sound. In those instances, I have to say that I see no problem with a man pursuing his lingerie interests in his own time, and if the wife / significant other finds out, then so be it. The fact of the matter is a lingerie fetish, especially one that was developed in the early years of one’s life is not going to just go away because someone else doesn’t like it. Sublimating lingerie desires only makes them stronger and often leads to a deep self loathing that can manifest in other self destructive behaviors. If one internalizes the messages one gets from an un-supportive partner, one can begin to view one’s desires for lingerie as a form of thought-crime, and no good can possibly come from that.

One is therefore left with a choice of two evils, to deny oneself a perfectly harmless predilection that brings pleasure, or to give into the thoroughly bigoted desires of a partner who puts their own desire for ‘normality’ above the mental and emotional health and plain happiness of the person they love. I say wear the lingerie if you want to and don’t let someone else’s thoroughly irrational prejudice taint your view of yourself.

Exagerate Your Bosom With Bullet Bras

These are definitely vintage and retro in their styling, but women in the 1950’s knew the worth of a good bullet bra for accentuating one’s bosom. It’s pretty difficult to find new bras made in the bullet bra style these days because nowadays the focus is on a natural looking rounded bosom, but E Bay still has some bullet bra specimens which can round out your otherwise modern lingerie collection.

Get A More Feminine Shape For Your Behind With SPANX Booty Boosting Panties

Some men wear lingerie because it feels good, some wear lingerie because they love how feminine it makes them feel. These booty padding panties from SPANX add rounded, feminine shape to one’s bottom, provide a little lift in the rear end, store a little junk in the proverbial trunk. You get the idea. Now of course, they’re not exactly pretty and lacy and all the rest of it, but they are women’s underwear and if that’s good enough for women, then why wouldn’t it be enough for you hmmm? Hmmm?

Click here for more on the SPANX Booty-Boost Short

Also, from EBay, some completely unrelated Booty Pop panties, which do the same thing, but they do it with lace and shine, ma cherie, with lace and shine.

Hanky Panky Black Widow Halloween Panties

It’s going to be Halloween in a month or so, and these Hanky Panky panties are a must have for any naughty lingerie outfit. I squealed slightly when I saw them because not only are they cute and lacy (two of my core criteria when it comes to choosing panties) but they’re a little bit dark and deviant and naughty too – all without being outright filthy. If these panties were in a show, it would be a tasteful burlesque show. The only potential downside of these panties is that resistance to ‘builder’s crack’ is futile. Of course, when it’s surrounded by lace, a little cheek cleavage can be a fine thing indeed.

Click here for more information about the Hanky Panky Black Widow Bikini Panty

A Little Lace Skirt For Your Satin Panties

I’m always on the lookout for innovative panty styles, and I think it’s safe to say I’ve found one here with the Blush Starlet Lace Trimmed Bikini Panty. The luscious satin panty comes in red or blue and provides full rear coverage, good news for those of you who like to cover your rear. What really sets these apart from other panties is the lace trim which puts me in mind of a little lace skirt after the 1920’s flapper styles. This is one of those panties guaranteed to make you feel delightfully feminine when you wear it. It also comes with a matching plunge style brassiere (perfect for wearing undetected under everyday clothing.)

Click here for more information about the Blush Starlet lace trimmed bikini panty.

Lovely Silky Smooth Lace Camisoles For Men

I do like a man in a camisole, probably for similar reasons that men like women in camisoles. That lovely smooth fabric (especially if silk or fine nylon) sliding over skin is a sensual pleasure like no other. Panties are lovely of course, but a panty / camisole combination provides so much more scope for slip and slide fun, especially if both parties are wearing similar lingerie. And the lace trim? Well that’s the cherry on the top.

Farr West Silk Charmeuse Camisole

They don’t make a lot of camisoles like this anymore, there’s a somewhat vintage / retro feeling to this piece, which is made from 100% silk in the USA (a bonus for anyone into buying American made products). I love the lace detailing that criss crosses the bodice, providing feminine definition on even the smallest of busts.

Click here for more information about the Farr West Silk Charmeuse Camisole

Adult or Mature?

A few months ago, I made a decision after some consultation with members of the He Wears Panties forum to remove the picture and adult sections from the forum. This came as a surprise to some, although I did post a thread about the matter, not everyone reads every thread ever posted and as it was posted in the general section. It felt a wee bit heavy handed and dictatorial at the time, but nobody came for me and my shiny gold hat and pistols, so that was okay.

I made the change not because I have any real objection to discussions of a more adult nature or pictures of men wearing lingerie but because the tone of the discourse that ensued in these areas of the forum didn’t mesh well with the overall aim of the site.

There was a significant traffic dip after the removal of those sub-forums which I figured would happen, but it did not overly concern me because frankly, this site isn’t about masses of traffic. It’s about supporting men who want to make fashion choices that deviate from the sometimes viciously enforced gender norms.

Since that time, I’ve been really encouraged by how gracefully everyone has gone with the change and how vigorous and interesting the discussion is in the forums. They’re a very positive place to be and though I don’t overtly poke my nose in too often (not wanting to break the flow and whatnot) I do keep an eye on the place and I’m very happy with what I see there. There’s some great practical advice for men who wear and purchase lingerie and a lot of camaraderie and emotional support as well. All this was there before the picture and adult sections were removed of course, but I think by removing them the site has really found a nice focus.

There’s always been two sides to this pretty coin of men wearing women’s clothing. One one side there’s a sort of progressive, egalitarian, almost human rights based approach to the issue, and on the other, the more carnal approach we’re all more than familiar with I would imagine. I think the fetish aspect of the issue is covered at length already in a number of venues, but He Wears Panties has something unique to offer above and beyond that.

If you haven’t checked out the forum yet, please feel free to. There’s a link at the top of the sidebar that will take you there. Just read the joining guidelines and don’t get too upset if your application to join takes a few days. I manually approve memberships (which is why you don’t have spammers selling you erectile aids and football jerseys on the site) so it does take a few days sometimes.

Men Wearing Dresses On The Red Carpet

Back in 2000, Trey Parker and Matt Stone wore dresses to the Academy Awards – and not just any dresses, reproductions of J Lo’s Versace dress and Gwyneth Paltrow’s Ralph Lauren gown. You might say that this has only the barest of relevance to anything happening today, and you might be correct, but I like posting pictures of men wearing dresses dammit, especially reproduction designer dresses. Trey looks pretty good in that wig too. I’ve always been a sucker for long hair on men.