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PostPosted: Wed Sep 20, 2017 7:40 pm 
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I went to see a psychologist regarding my panties wearing about 1 year back. I was diagnosed as suffering from a paraphilic disorder - Underwear fetishism. Alone is not a disorder but I guess it causes distress or serious problems for the person or those associated with them - in this case my wife.

I still like wearing panties and have stopped going to the clinic. Should I visit again for treatment? I stopped visiting after the diagnosis. So I never really know if I will stop wearing eventually if I continue going for treatment.

One thing for sure, I don't feel ashamed telling my doctor about me liking to wear panties, and in fact I told her I felt good telling her that.

Any advise?


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PostPosted: Thu Sep 21, 2017 3:12 am 
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A couple things: First, there is no proven, reliable treatment for changing a person's fetishes, or otherwise stated, sexual arousal patterns. A competent therapist will tell you that and will focus any therapy on managing this arousal pattern within the context of your primary sexual relationship--helping your partner accept and understand, reducing shame, and helping you keep sexual behavior in check. The second thing is that some gender dysphoria (I believe) is mistakenly diagnosed as a sexual fetish as sometimes the distinction--even for the guy--is really confusing because sexual arousal and attraction gets all mixed up with gender identification. So, be at least a little skeptical about the fetish diagnosis. Plus, most people have very specific turn-on triggers. It just gets called a fetish when it is an inanimate object. Be wary of labels. Nancy


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PostPosted: Thu Sep 21, 2017 7:12 am 
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I enjoy wearing panties when I am with a group of female friends, but not when with male friends. Being with female friends make me feel good. Probably coz I'm wearing panties which they are too.


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PostPosted: Thu Sep 21, 2017 10:00 am 
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nancybali wrote:
A couple things: First, there is no proven, reliable treatment for changing a person's fetishes, or otherwise stated, sexual arousal patterns. A competent therapist will tell you that and will focus any therapy on managing this arousal pattern within the context of your primary sexual relationship--helping your partner accept and understand,mreducing shame, and helping you keep sexual behavior in check. The second thing is that some gender dysphoria (I believe) is mistakenly diagnosed as a sexual fetish as sometimes the distinction--even for the guy--is really confusing because sexual arousal and attraction gets all mixed up with gender identification. So, be at least a little skeptical about the fetish diagnosis. Plus, most people have very specific turn-on triggers. It just gets called a fetish when it is an inanimate object. Be wary of labels. Nancy


Good words of caution and wisdom Nancy. Therapy is awesome but it has its limits and processes, depending on what sort of therapy is used. If panty wearing is sexual, purely gender related or some combination of both, there are different strategies to help one thrive and deal with that.

In my own case it was never sexual and was discussed within the context of my overall dressing to deal with my gender dysphoria. I never had much body dysphoria but did have the social version of it. It turns out i am aroused by romance, emotional connection, touch etc. Nothing specific but it is a combo of factors.


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PostPosted: Tue Oct 17, 2017 3:28 pm 
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Well tomorrow is the day, I post pone it the first time so I go tomorrow for my first visit.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 17, 2017 4:24 pm 
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Well tomorrow is the day, I post pone it the first time so I go tomorrow for my first visit.


Sara I hope all goes well!

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 17, 2017 4:25 pm 
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Carrie wrote:
wearsbikinis wrote:
Well tomorrow is the day, I post pone it the first time so I go tomorrow for my first visit.


Sara I hope all goes well!

Carrie

Me too I think it will. Thanks

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 17, 2017 4:52 pm 
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wearsbikinis wrote:
Well tomorrow is the day, I post pone it the first time so I go tomorrow for my first visit.

Good luck Sara, I am sure you will do fine. Crissy


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Good luck Sara. Relax, be yourself, and be honest.


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Good luck, Sara. I will be thinking of you.

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