Category Archives: He Wears Panties

A Little Lace Skirt For Your Satin Panties

I’m always on the lookout for innovative panty styles, and I think it’s safe to say I’ve found one here with the Blush Starlet Lace Trimmed Bikini Panty. The luscious satin panty comes in red or blue and provides full rear coverage, good news for those of you who like to cover your rear. What really sets these apart from other panties is the lace trim which puts me in mind of a little lace skirt after the 1920’s flapper styles. This is one of those panties guaranteed to make you feel delightfully feminine when you wear it. It also comes with a matching plunge style brassiere (perfect for wearing undetected under everyday clothing.)

Click here for more information about the Blush Starlet lace trimmed bikini panty.

Adult or Mature?

A few months ago, I made a decision after some consultation with members of the He Wears Panties forum to remove the picture and adult sections from the forum. This came as a surprise to some, although I did post a thread about the matter, not everyone reads every thread ever posted and as it was posted in the general section. It felt a wee bit heavy handed and dictatorial at the time, but nobody came for me and my shiny gold hat and pistols, so that was okay.

I made the change not because I have any real objection to discussions of a more adult nature or pictures of men wearing lingerie but because the tone of the discourse that ensued in these areas of the forum didn’t mesh well with the overall aim of the site.

There was a significant traffic dip after the removal of those sub-forums which I figured would happen, but it did not overly concern me because frankly, this site isn’t about masses of traffic. It’s about supporting men who want to make fashion choices that deviate from the sometimes viciously enforced gender norms.

Since that time, I’ve been really encouraged by how gracefully everyone has gone with the change and how vigorous and interesting the discussion is in the forums. They’re a very positive place to be and though I don’t overtly poke my nose in too often (not wanting to break the flow and whatnot) I do keep an eye on the place and I’m very happy with what I see there. There’s some great practical advice for men who wear and purchase lingerie and a lot of camaraderie and emotional support as well. All this was there before the picture and adult sections were removed of course, but I think by removing them the site has really found a nice focus.

There’s always been two sides to this pretty coin of men wearing women’s clothing. One one side there’s a sort of progressive, egalitarian, almost human rights based approach to the issue, and on the other, the more carnal approach we’re all more than familiar with I would imagine. I think the fetish aspect of the issue is covered at length already in a number of venues, but He Wears Panties has something unique to offer above and beyond that.

If you haven’t checked out the forum yet, please feel free to. There’s a link at the top of the sidebar that will take you there. Just read the joining guidelines and don’t get too upset if your application to join takes a few days. I manually approve memberships (which is why you don’t have spammers selling you erectile aids and football jerseys on the site) so it does take a few days sometimes.

Guest Blogger: An Army Man In Panties

Thanks to Paula, who sent this post about his experiences as a man who wore panties during tours of duty in Iraq, and how he came to discover the joys and benefits of being a panty wearer.

If you’d like to contribute your own experiences or perspectives to the blog, please do email me:

I am a 36 year old straight man that enjoys wearing panties. A little of my background: I doubt that anyone could call into question my masculinity. I had a career in the Army with three combat tours, led convoys around Baghdad, always scored highly on my physical fitness tests, and was in charge of my own platoon. I rose up through the ranks quite quickly, serving in many leadership position. I am also married and the father of two boys that are as into sports as I am.

Nothing about me looks or seems feminine, but just like others that have posted here, I had been frustrated with limited options of what was being sold/marketed for men to wear. I hate boxers in that I want support for my parts, and just can’t stand the look and feel of tighty-whities. I hate the feel of the rough cotton that we are limited to. Not only that, but there is no variety whatsoever in men’s underwear. After looking and looking, I was able to find some underwear made by Marona that was a micro-fiber type material. I started wearing those, but was still limited to black, white, and dark blue…that’s it. Let’s see, what should I wear today? Oooohhh, I get to choose from three. :( Kind of like when I was in the military: What should I wear today? How about green!

I discovered panties quite a few years ago when my wife as a joke, dared me to wear a pair of hers. I was hooked. They felt good, they supported me well, and I must admit, I got turned on as well. Throughout the years, she has gone back and forth on if she likes it or not. For a while we even shopped for panties together for me, and allowed me to wear them to bed along with a nightgown. Interesting, she “allowed” me, since when should me have to be “allowed” to do something? However, she is now totally against it, she does not like any bit of it even though I wish I could wear them 24/7. I have to actually hide the fact that I wear them, which I hate having to lie to her. BTW, if there are any women reading this that refuse to let your husband wear panties and lingerie, you are only forcing them to lie to you.

Not only do I love the feel and look of panties, but being the military had made me aggressive, combative, and assertive. Sometimes this is good, sometimes not. Wearing panties under my uniform was a good way of calming me down. At one point in the military, I almost had a breakdown where all the expectations of my family, my soldiers, and society got to be too much. I felt that I was carrying the burden of our nation on my shoulders, and along with that, my family. When people see a soldier they expect them to be the protector, the one to fight for the nation, a perfect example of manliness. Society does not allow a male soldier to show feeling, any kind of softness, or any type of weakness. That is a lot to carry on your shoulders. I don’t know when, but I started wearing panties once again under my uniform, and every once in a while, a bra or camisole. With our uniform tops, it was easy to hide. I didn’t wear a bra or camisole while deployed, but still wore panties.

A curious thing started happening. My soldiers told me that I was more approachable, my leadership style was more fair and balanced, and that I was able to listen and understand their problems that they brought to me better. The stress started melting away and I was able to function better. I became a better father and husband. So even though I love wearing panties due to the variety, feel, and the overall sexiness of it, there are some great side effects from wearing panties!

FALL IN! Commando Lace Low Rise Thong

For  men who are commanded by panties comes the commando lace low rise thong, an incredibly sexy, nigh undetectable pair of panties that not only make themselves scarce, but look sexy doing it. The pair you’re viewing are the Grey Leopard Commando panties, however these panties also come in a range of basic colors, in which the lace is dyed to match, so as to keep itself a secret. In addition to the Grey Leopard, you can also wear the Brown Leopard, which also comes with black lace.

But colors are incidental to the true genius of these panties, what really makes these panties special is the raw cut technology that means no panty lines and no muffin tops. These panties will not define your body by cutting into any fat reserves you might have, they will conform to it in the most pleasant way possible.

The Leopard Commando Lace Low Rise Thong. Rawr innovation.

Go Commando! (Buy these panties)

Vanity Fair String Bikini Panty

Did you know that Vanity Fair makes a lovely bikini cut shimmering nylon panty? It’s sort of beige, but I’ve noticed that other people aren’t quite so down on beige as I am, and it does have its benefits in the stealth department. These panties will sit comfortably below your pants line and even if they do peek up a little (perhaps during mandatory manly under sink inspections) then you may get away with them anyway. Of course, the pretty shimmery shine is sure to be eye catching, so avoid flashing them under bright lights if you’re not quite ready to be a beacon of panty excellence.

These panties are part of the ‘body caress’ series, so they’re guaranteed to feel silky smooth against your skin, an important factor to consider when purchasing any panties.

My ‘ end’ verdict: These are sort of the ugly duckling of lingerie. They don’t look like much at first, but once you roast them over some buns, they’re incredibly tasty.

Get The Vanity Fair Body Caress String Bikini Panty

Can You Cure Yourself Of Panty Wearing?

This is a topic I’ve written about before, but I think it deserves revisiting because it rears its head for so many men at so many different stages of their lives. We all know that wearing panties isn’t as simple for men as it is for women. Women buy and wear panties and nobody cares. Men, on the other hand, are struck down one day with an urge to wear panties and from that point on board the roller-coaster of lingerie guilt until such time as they accept themselves fully, and surround themselves with supportive partners. (Or, you know, one supportive partner will probably do, let’s not be greedy here.)

Why is it such a big deal for men who like wearing lingerie to accept their fetish?

At some point after you discover you like lingerie, you’re going to realize that it’s not ‘normal’ and that wearing lingerie is therefore viewed as being a negative thing to do.  As humans, we tend to internalize the values of the societies we live in, even the silly shallow ones. This makes us vulnerable to feeling like bad people if we don’t want the same things everyone around us wants.

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Cotton Panties With a Difference | DKNY Cotton Cutie Cheeky Hipster Panty

Now usually I shy away from cotton because cotton is my lingerie kryptonite and the mere mention of the fabric causes parts of my psyche to wither up and die a little. But not everyone is that way inclined, and if anyone can make cotton worthwhile, it’s probably a large designer label like DKNY, right?

At any rate these panties caught my eye for their slightly art-deco feel, the undulating nature of the lace certainly sets these apart from many stock standard cotton panties designed to crush the soul. The satiny bows are also a little larger than the petite bows one often sees on simple lingerie, and add a nice overt feminine touch.

Finally, the dark scalloping along the top of the panty line and the slight ruching at the seams of the panties make for a coherent though simplistic designer piece. (You see what they’ve done to those sides there, don’t you? Made them a feature rather than an embarrassing fabric seam)

If you want to buy these panties, you can do so here. (At time of posting, they were just $10.)

Full Disclosure: This isn’t a sponsored posting per se, however if you follow the link and buy the panties, He Wears Panties does get a cut, which means not only do you get to see plenty of cute lingerie featured on the site, but He Wears Panties is able to pay for server hosting, etc.

I am, however, open to featuring any lingerie you love, so if you come across some lingerie you think really deserves to be showcased on He Wears Panties, then you should feel free to make a post on the forum or alternatively, email me about it.

He Wears Panties, Now Being An Awesome Community

Hey guys :) Hope again here. (Well, who would it be, I guess.)  Anyway, I wanted to say thanks for everyone who has been so supportive and commenting and being generally lingerie fantastic! I have a bit of a ‘well duh’ confession to make, I missed a lot of the comments that were posted because I was looking for them in the wrong place, which is not very useful, is it? And I was sitting here going ‘why is nobody commenting’? and then I look in the actual comments section and *faceplam* there are heaps and heaps of them.

So there you go, human error wins again.

I hope you all continue to comment and to enjoy the site, I will be posting more lingerie reviews soon, and I am also reinstating the He Wears Panties Forum, so feel free to pay a visit there if you want to chat more deeply with other male lovers of lingerie (and the occasional female as well.)

Your Favorite Panties For Men | Results Round One

Over a year ago I wrote an article asking men what their favorite panties were. I also asked a bunch of more specific questions  including what cut men liked, what color they liked, what brands they liked, and what they most liked wearing with their panties. I received hundreds of comments and overwhelming amounts of feedback, which was exceptionally awesome, and I am now ready to impart the results unto you, my fine readers.  In one category at least, my lingerie scientists (that’s me and my kitty mittens) have not quite finished tabulating all the results.

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In Defense Of Men’s Panties…

A good article (I hope) to send people who aren’t quite down with the whole ‘men can wear panties too’ thing. And an amazingly hot picture that proves a chiseled body looks good in anything. (As if that needed proving. ) The picture is from‘s new lines, which are definitely worth checking out if you want feminine underwear made for men.

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Men’s Panties or Women’s Panties?

This is a question and point of contention for men who like to wear lingerie, their partners and other people who have a passing interest in the topic. I myself often argue that panties are panties are panties, regardless of who is wearing them. However in reality, there is a difference between ‘men’s panties’ and ‘women’s panties’, if only because ‘women’s panties’ tend to be fairly high quality garments made by multinational corporations and modeled by lanky Brazilian lasses with more money than sense, whereas ‘men’s panties’ tend to be produced by smaller companies that cater to a very different aesthetic.

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A Guide To Men’s Satin Panties

a man wears satin pantiesSatin is a fabric held dear to men who wear lingerie, or rather, if I am to be accurate, it is a style of fabric that entrances lingerie aficionados of all genders. Satin, one might say, is the most important fabric in all the kingdom of lingerie, if we are to view lingerie as a kingdom, which I think we should, as it accords the subject a certain gravitas that is often otherwise missing.When it comes to purchasing a pair of satin panties that will serve one well, it pays to understand the nature of satin. Satin has many secrets beneath its lustrous shine, and if you wish to tame it, you must first come to understand the silken beast.

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