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About Hope

Hope Alexander is an unlikely fashion guru, pseudo philosopher, and lady who likes men who wear lingerie. Some say that Hope Alexander once round housed Chuck Norris. (After he claimed that public health care would have invariably resulted in the Virgin Mary aborting Jesus.) Others say she eats LOL cats on toast for breakfast and that she once scaled Notre Dame holding a freedom fry in one hand and a baguette in the other. It later turned out that the whole stunt had been filmed not a mile from a major road, which caused a major backlash against her popular bounty hunting tv series in which she bailed out ice heads, then tracked them down whilst wearing feathers and beads in her hair. Today, a shadow of her former self, she writes on the Internet.

Are Men Who Wear Women’s Clothing Mute?

Men who wear women’s clothing have been marginalized for a long time. Why? Perhaps it is because for many men the behavior is based on purely fetishistic drives which demand privacy. Perhaps it is because for a long time, homosexual behavior was also marginalized and even criminalized and men feared being misidentified as gay. Perhaps it is because men with the drive to wear women’s clothing sometimes fear being ostracized by those they know and love.

There are many reasons to stay quiet, but they all cost men who wear women’s clothing deeply. Those who enjoy lingerie and panties as a fetish tend to be more open and vocal about it than those who simply enjoy women’s clothing and want to incorporate it into their everyday lives. This has left public perception of men who wear lingerie and women’s clothing as being that of a pack of oversexed perverts.

Even on this blog, even on this site where men are guaranteed to find acceptance and camaraderie, most of you stay silent. As evidenced when I enabled some comments features, no-one had anything to say at all, save for one lone little deviant (and I say that with affection,) who wanted the man in the bikini to show off his butt.

If you will not speak for yourselves, who will speak for you? If you will not speak for yourselves, how can you expect the status quo to change? You don’t need to go marching down the high street in your prettiest pink lingerie and high heels, but if the phenomenon of men’s fashion equality is to have any traction in the world at all, you will need to learn to speak up as a group, and not just on shady (or not so shady) panty fetish sites on the web but in your everyday lives.

Things change because people brave the uncomfortable days and years of being ‘different’, only to wake up one day and find that they are not different any more, they are simply one of the many. Some of you do a brilliant job of being who you are out in the world, some of you are not afraid to live your lives as you wish to live them, some of you are true inspirations to all. But for every man who proudly wears what he wants to, hundreds more quietly skulk about in hiding. Too few of you raise your voices. You are many, yet you hide in the cracks and crevices of cyberspace where nothing can and nothing will change.

If you want to see the day come where it is accepted as common knowledge that men can wear whatever they want, just as women currently can, then you need to quit hiding and speak up.

He Dances On Video Wearing Lingerie (And A Mask)

(If someone doesn’t at least have something to say about this, then I am so dropping the comments again ;) Over four thousand visitors a day and not one of you has anything to say? Tsk tsk. Use it or lose it, my dears.)

UPDATE: *Sigh* Really? One person manages to double post “you need to show your butt?” Seriously? This is why we can’t have nice things like comments on this blog.

You won’t find any further comment facilities here. Feel free to visit the forums if you are a more loquacious gentleman.

Want To Meet Other Men Who Wear Lingerie?

I noticed that there were several posts on the forums made by men who wanted to meet other men who cross dress and wear women’s lingerie. They were rather lost in amongst the other categories, so there is now a totally separate forum for those men who wish to meet other men who wear lingerie for friendship, support or possibly more.

Looking To Meet Men In Lingerie

How To Juggle A Panty Fetish And A Relationship

This is actually an exchange between a reader and I. He wrote to me asking what he should do about his girlfriend of six months who was initially very understanding about lingerie, but recently has become upset by it. I did give him some advice, and because this is such a common problem for men trying to juggle a lingerie fetish and a relationship, I asked if he minded me posting a portion of his letter and my response on the site. He very graciously agreed, so my thanks go to him.

I’ve opened up comments at the end of this, so if you have an opinion, feel free to weigh in!

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Best Of | Hot Plastic Lingerie (PVC Isn’t Just For Gimp Masks And Water Pipes Anymore)

pvc lingerieIn which I wax lyrical about the virtues of PVC…

PVC is a thermoplastic polymer that can transform an ordinary guy or gal into a legendary sex symbol in less time than in takes to polymerize vinyl chloride monomer.

Cheaper than leather, latex or rubber, PVC has become the go to polymer cluster for a wide range of people looking for durable clothing that is super shiny. When I think about it, I end up wondering why we don’t all wear PVC in our every day wear.

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Best Of | How To Get Caught Wearing Women’s Lingerie

caughtThis best of article takes a look at men who want to get caught in lingerie and provides a few hints and tips for getting caught, in case you happen to be a man in need of some advice.

Who doesn’t love to get caught in lingerie? The looks of horror! The enraged mobs! The possible arrests and indecency charges! Getting caught out there in lingerie is possibly one of the most fun things of all time ever.

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Best Of | Sexy Camisoles For Men

sexy camisoleAnother of the best of’s here. This was the first article I ever wrote about camisoles for men. I haven’t written many articles on camisoles when compared to other types of lingerie, but I truly believe that a nice camisole is a man who loves lingerie’s best friend. Not only does it feel good and look good, but it makes for plenty of sensual sliding with a partner.

Nothing screams sexy like a well made camisole. Lightweight, innocuous under clothing, but oh so feminine, many men love to wear camisoles as part of their daily attire, giving them a little extra lift throughout the otherwise dreary work day. The feel of satin, chiffon, or silk caressing against your torso as you make a presentation, take the train to work, or simply walk down to the pub for lunch makes for a sexy secret that is sure to lift your spirits, and perhaps various other anatomical regions as well.

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Best Of He Wears Panties | Gorgeous Granny Panties For Guys

olga granny pantiesI’ll be highlighting a few of the top He Wears Panties articles over the next few days. Many of them were first published over a year ago, so if you’re new here, they’ll probably be new to you too.

First up, an article about Granny Panties. Not your Grandmother’s Granny panties, no. Lovely full brief panties.

As one wistful male reader pointed out, many of the panties we ladies take for granted with their skimpy styling simply won’t work for a man who wants to wear panties. Men, it would seem, have additional anatomical structures which make the wearing of certain types of women’s panties unbearable. So, for all you well endowed chaps out there who need several inches in the gusset just to make it through the day in one piece, we shall celebrate the much maligned granny panty, aka full brief.

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Panty Vigilantes Sneak Peek

A little sneak peek into what I have been working on in the Panty Vigilantes book. This is the section aimed at women in the lives of men who wear lingerie, women who may have been quite surprised to discover that the men in their lives love to wear women’s clothing.

This section is dedicated to women who have found themselves unexpectedly in a relationship with a man who wears women’s clothing. That is to say, you knew you were in a relationship, you weren’t so well aware that the fellow you love is also the fellow who has been sneaking your panties. (Make him stop that, by the way and get him some of his own. Unless you like it, in which case, hey, go to town!)

Discovering that one’s partner wears women’s clothing can be a shock, especially if it isn’t something you’ve really thought about before. I know that many years ago, when my boyfriend of the time informed me that he liked to wear panties, it was something entirely new to me.

At this point, if you haven’t already, I’d advise you to read the other sections of the booklet as well as this one, they answer questions like ‘does this mean he is gay’ in detail. To cut a long story short however, the fact that a man has a soft spot for lingerie or other items of women’s clothing does not mean that he is less of a man, that he is less heterosexual, or that he will not make a good partner.

On the contrary, men who wear lingerie make some of the best partners because they appreciate sensitivity and subtlety.

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Comments! Comments For All!

I have added this newfangled comments system with alleged ‘Social Media.’

Click the ‘Admin’ button and you can log in with any account, Twitter, Google Friend Connect, Yahoo Account, Blogspot Account and so much more. I think you might be able to program your VCR with it as well. (VCR? Yes. VCR.)

Let’s see how this goes, shall we? If it gets spammed it will come down, none of us need the hassle of dealing with 50,000 links to male enhancement pills. It’ll only be on new posts and pages until I get around to adding it to others because I have to manually add it. So much for the new millenium.

Change Is Afoot For He Wears Panties

Hello everyone!

This is a little post to let you all know that there are some changes afoot at He Wears Panties.  Up until now, most of the articles have been posted over at Hub  From now on, they’ll be posted here. I may elaborate on the reasons for this in the future, but mostly I want to build up this site as a central place for men who wear lingerie and women’s clothing without sending everyone all over the web to do so.

I had turned the comments off because of over zealous spammers, but I will turn them back on (when I remember what I did to take them off in the first place :), so we can continue to have the same brilliant, insightful dialog that we had on Hub Pages. Of course, the forum is also there for discussion in the meantime, and if I can’t work out how to turn the comments back on, I may just link to a new thread in the forum for every article’s discussion.

I hope to do some site redesign, hopefully minor in the coming months. You’ll no doubt have noticed that some additional advertising has popped up on the site. I hope that it is not too distracting. He Wears Panties takes a fair bit of time to run and maintain, and advertising helps alleviate the pressures associated with that. Personally, I don’t care if you never click an ad or buy anything, but if you were planning to and go through He Wears Panties, that helps keep the site going.

If you have any thoughts or ideas as to how you would like to see He Wears Panties take shape in the future, feel free to email me

I’m also  really happy with the way the forum has grown. I do read posts and moderate where I see necessary, but I am by no means omnipotent on there, so do contact me if you have any concerns. Other than that, as far as I can see there is a nice little community being built there and I am very happy to see that!

It’s a pleasure to write for you all, and I hope you continue to enjoy the articles here as much as you did on Hub Pages.

Love :)


Breast Enhancement For Men

meowMany men secretly, or not so secretly, wish they could have breasts. For some men, this comes as a result of feeling that they truly are feminine on the inside, for others it is simply a matter of wanting the fun of breasts for a wee while.  (For still others, they’re a ticket to positions of power beyond their wildest dreams, your results may vary.)

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