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About Hope

Hope Alexander is an unlikely fashion guru, pseudo philosopher, and lady who likes men who wear lingerie. Some say that Hope Alexander once round housed Chuck Norris. (After he claimed that public health care would have invariably resulted in the Virgin Mary aborting Jesus.) Others say she eats LOL cats on toast for breakfast and that she once scaled Notre Dame holding a freedom fry in one hand and a baguette in the other. It later turned out that the whole stunt had been filmed not a mile from a major road, which caused a major backlash against her popular bounty hunting tv series in which she bailed out ice heads, then tracked them down whilst wearing feathers and beads in her hair. Today, a shadow of her former self, she writes on the Internet.

Every Man Deserves Pink Cellulose Panties

This is a platform that might not get a politician elected, but it is an indubitable fact that just like every woman is worth it, every man deserves pink cellulose panties. If you can untangle that logic, you get a special prize: disillusionment and probably an existential crisis.

On a more upbeat note, pink panties for men!

Today I’m featuring this pair of pink hipster panties, which probably refers to the cut of the panties, but instead I’m going to go ahead and imagine that it refers to a group of men who were wearing panties before it was cool to wear panties. The little snaps along the crotch line of these put me somewhat in mind of a diaper, but hey, you can’t have everything. It’s a scientific impossibility. These panties are made of 70% modal, which is spun cellulose fiber, which is just downright innovative. They’re also on final closeout. So hurry. Or don’t. It’s up to you.

Click here to get these panties, or just inspect them more closely…

Lingerie Thought-Crime

So you’re a man who likes women’s lingerie. Maybe you like it because of the way it feels against your skin. Maybe you like it because it makes you feel feminine. There’s certainly nothing wrong with a man liking lingerie, but many men who do are all too aware that not every woman in the world shares that sentiment. Which brings up the question, does your partner have a ‘right’ to know about your lingerie?

If you have a supportive partner who accepts your desire to wear lingerie on occasion, and perhaps even supports it, then that is wonderful. But what if your partner is not so accepting? Should you DTMFA, (“Dump the Motherfucker Already”) as Dan Savage might say? Or should you hide away your lingerie desires and pursue them in secret? If you choose the latter option, does your partner have the right to freak out upon discovering your lingerie related activities, and should you feel guilty about it?

I’ve always said that a man should at least run his desire to wear lingerie by his partner, because it’s a part of his life and one’s partner should always be as much a part of one’s life as possible. But what if you do share and the response is highly negative? What do you do then? Well, the blanket answer for this sort of thing is being told to find another, more supportive partner. If you catch the issue early on in the relationship, it’s probably the best idea.

But life being what it is, it’s more than possible that you could be quite a long way into a relationship before you tell your partner. You could be married, with a house and kids and then what? Are you going to forego your vows and the inherent promise you made to your children when you created them to be there for something as relatively superficial as liking to wear lingerie? Probably not.

A great many men do end up in a position where their partner does not approve of or support their lingerie wearing but the relationship is otherwise sound. In those instances, I have to say that I see no problem with a man pursuing his lingerie interests in his own time, and if the wife / significant other finds out, then so be it. The fact of the matter is a lingerie fetish, especially one that was developed in the early years of one’s life is not going to just go away because someone else doesn’t like it. Sublimating lingerie desires only makes them stronger and often leads to a deep self loathing that can manifest in other self destructive behaviors. If one internalizes the messages one gets from an un-supportive partner, one can begin to view one’s desires for lingerie as a form of thought-crime, and no good can possibly come from that.

One is therefore left with a choice of two evils, to deny oneself a perfectly harmless predilection that brings pleasure, or to give into the thoroughly bigoted desires of a partner who puts their own desire for ‘normality’ above the mental and emotional health and plain happiness of the person they love. I say wear the lingerie if you want to and don’t let someone else’s thoroughly irrational prejudice taint your view of yourself.

Exagerate Your Bosom With Bullet Bras

These are definitely vintage and retro in their styling, but women in the 1950’s knew the worth of a good bullet bra for accentuating one’s bosom. It’s pretty difficult to find new bras made in the bullet bra style these days because nowadays the focus is on a natural looking rounded bosom, but E Bay still has some bullet bra specimens which can round out your otherwise modern lingerie collection.

Get A More Feminine Shape For Your Behind With SPANX Booty Boosting Panties

Some men wear lingerie because it feels good, some wear lingerie because they love how feminine it makes them feel. These booty padding panties from SPANX add rounded, feminine shape to one’s bottom, provide a little lift in the rear end, store a little junk in the proverbial trunk. You get the idea. Now of course, they’re not exactly pretty and lacy and all the rest of it, but they are women’s underwear and if that’s good enough for women, then why wouldn’t it be enough for you hmmm? Hmmm?

Click here for more on the SPANX Booty-Boost Short

Also, from EBay, some completely unrelated Booty Pop panties, which do the same thing, but they do it with lace and shine, ma cherie, with lace and shine.

Hanky Panky Black Widow Halloween Panties

It’s going to be Halloween in a month or so, and these Hanky Panky panties are a must have for any naughty lingerie outfit. I squealed slightly when I saw them because not only are they cute and lacy (two of my core criteria when it comes to choosing panties) but they’re a little bit dark and deviant and naughty too – all without being outright filthy. If these panties were in a show, it would be a tasteful burlesque show. The only potential downside of these panties is that resistance to ‘builder’s crack’ is futile. Of course, when it’s surrounded by lace, a little cheek cleavage can be a fine thing indeed.

Click here for more information about the Hanky Panky Black Widow Bikini Panty

A Little Lace Skirt For Your Satin Panties

I’m always on the lookout for innovative panty styles, and I think it’s safe to say I’ve found one here with the Blush Starlet Lace Trimmed Bikini Panty. The luscious satin panty comes in red or blue and provides full rear coverage, good news for those of you who like to cover your rear. What really sets these apart from other panties is the lace trim which puts me in mind of a little lace skirt after the 1920’s flapper styles. This is one of those panties guaranteed to make you feel delightfully feminine when you wear it. It also comes with a matching plunge style brassiere (perfect for wearing undetected under everyday clothing.)

Click here for more information about the Blush Starlet lace trimmed bikini panty.

Lovely Silky Smooth Lace Camisoles For Men

I do like a man in a camisole, probably for similar reasons that men like women in camisoles. That lovely smooth fabric (especially if silk or fine nylon) sliding over skin is a sensual pleasure like no other. Panties are lovely of course, but a panty / camisole combination provides so much more scope for slip and slide fun, especially if both parties are wearing similar lingerie. And the lace trim? Well that’s the cherry on the top.

Farr West Silk Charmeuse Camisole

They don’t make a lot of camisoles like this anymore, there’s a somewhat vintage / retro feeling to this piece, which is made from 100% silk in the USA (a bonus for anyone into buying American made products). I love the lace detailing that criss crosses the bodice, providing feminine definition on even the smallest of busts.

Click here for more information about the Farr West Silk Charmeuse Camisole

Adult or Mature?

A few months ago, I made a decision after some consultation with members of the He Wears Panties forum to remove the picture and adult sections from the forum. This came as a surprise to some, although I did post a thread about the matter, not everyone reads every thread ever posted and as it was posted in the general section. It felt a wee bit heavy handed and dictatorial at the time, but nobody came for me and my shiny gold hat and pistols, so that was okay.

I made the change not because I have any real objection to discussions of a more adult nature or pictures of men wearing lingerie but because the tone of the discourse that ensued in these areas of the forum didn’t mesh well with the overall aim of the site.

There was a significant traffic dip after the removal of those sub-forums which I figured would happen, but it did not overly concern me because frankly, this site isn’t about masses of traffic. It’s about supporting men who want to make fashion choices that deviate from the sometimes viciously enforced gender norms.

Since that time, I’ve been really encouraged by how gracefully everyone has gone with the change and how vigorous and interesting the discussion is in the forums. They’re a very positive place to be and though I don’t overtly poke my nose in too often (not wanting to break the flow and whatnot) I do keep an eye on the place and I’m very happy with what I see there. There’s some great practical advice for men who wear and purchase lingerie and a lot of camaraderie and emotional support as well. All this was there before the picture and adult sections were removed of course, but I think by removing them the site has really found a nice focus.

There’s always been two sides to this pretty coin of men wearing women’s clothing. One one side there’s a sort of progressive, egalitarian, almost human rights based approach to the issue, and on the other, the more carnal approach we’re all more than familiar with I would imagine. I think the fetish aspect of the issue is covered at length already in a number of venues, but He Wears Panties has something unique to offer above and beyond that.

If you haven’t checked out the forum yet, please feel free to. There’s a link at the top of the sidebar that will take you there. Just read the joining guidelines and don’t get too upset if your application to join takes a few days. I manually approve memberships (which is why you don’t have spammers selling you erectile aids and football jerseys on the site) so it does take a few days sometimes.

Men Wearing Dresses On The Red Carpet

Back in 2000, Trey Parker and Matt Stone wore dresses to the Academy Awards – and not just any dresses, reproductions of J Lo’s Versace dress and Gwyneth Paltrow’s Ralph Lauren gown. You might say that this has only the barest of relevance to anything happening today, and you might be correct, but I like posting pictures of men wearing dresses dammit, especially reproduction designer dresses. Trey looks pretty good in that wig too. I’ve always been a sucker for long hair on men.

Why Her Room For His Lingerie?

You’ll notice that the main sponsor of this site is Her Room. There’s more than one reason for this. Of course they supply a wide range of lingerie at decent prices and are known to have pretty good customer service (as reported by several readers of this blog), but over and above this, they openly support men who wear lingerie. This is evidenced by the page aimed openly and unashamedly at male wearers of lingerie on their website. A reader linked me to the page, which impressed me thoroughly with its very useful tips that help men find women’s lingerie that will fit and feel good. It’s great to see retailers responding to the market in a progressive and helpful manner, and it’s wonderful that some of the biggest online lingerie retailers are not only acknowledging that men wear lingerie, but are more than willing to help them find lingerie they’ll love!

Here are some of the popular panties as picked by male customers according to Her Room:


Click here for more popular panties for men!

Mike Rowe In A Pretty Pink Apron

Okay, so it’s not exactly lingerie, but it is clothing probably designed for a woman – and he looks more than a little desirable wearing it, in my frank opinion.

Thanks to all those who left comments of welcome on the Shadow Thong post the other day. What a wonderful response! I have manual approvals on for spam control so they didn’t appear right away, but I’ve just caught up with them now, they were very nice and put a big smile on my face :)

The Natori Shadow Thong

It has been a long and I do mean long time since I blogged on the site, but after a lengthy break, I think I’m ready to return to the serious business of lingerie for men, and lingerie for women that men also wear. I’m starting back reviewing a series of panties I think would work well for men.

The Natori Shadow Thong has slipped its way into my good graces by merit of the sense of subtlety and secretiveness about it. Not all men who wear lingerie can do so publicly, and the shadow thong seems to understand that. This mesh fronted panty doesn’t draw any undue attention to itself.  The thong cut ensures that there won’t be any visible panty line to give you away, but the contrast lace insert in the crotch embraces all things frilly and feminine.

It comes in two colors, black and nude and it’s on sale now for $17.99! Final closeout!

Buy the Natori Shadow Thong