Comments on: Are You Hiding Your Lingerie Wearing? http://hewearspanties.com/are-you-hiding-your-lingerie-wearing/ Thu, 01 Sep 2011 15:29:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Hope http://hewearspanties.com/are-you-hiding-your-lingerie-wearing/comment-page-1/#comment-14 Hope Sun, 14 Dec 2008 00:20:23 +0000 http://hewearspanties.com/?p=47#comment-14 Hey Mikki, thanks for commenting again :) It's okay to be on opposite sides of the panty line, and its good to have both views here too. I can only ever write from my perspective, and I am well aware that any advice I give is only going to be useful for some people some of the time. Personally I think that it is only fair to tell your partner about the things in your world that are important to you. Intimacy is built on trust, and having a secret panty world can erode both very quickly if it is discovered. Even if it isn't, the festering secret can take its toll on a relationship. That said, what works for you, works for you. It is not my intent or place to pass judgment, simply to encourage people to be themselves and enjoy themselves, be that with others or alone. Hey Mikki, thanks for commenting again :) It’s okay to be on opposite sides of the panty line, and its good to have both views here too. I can only ever write from my perspective, and I am well aware that any advice I give is only going to be useful for some people some of the time.

Personally I think that it is only fair to tell your partner about the things in your world that are important to you. Intimacy is built on trust, and having a secret panty world can erode both very quickly if it is discovered. Even if it isn’t, the festering secret can take its toll on a relationship.

That said, what works for you, works for you. It is not my intent or place to pass judgment, simply to encourage people to be themselves and enjoy themselves, be that with others or alone.

]]> By: Mikki http://hewearspanties.com/are-you-hiding-your-lingerie-wearing/comment-page-1/#comment-12 Mikki Mon, 08 Dec 2008 14:55:26 +0000 http://hewearspanties.com/?p=47#comment-12 I think we may be on opposite sides of the panty line on this issue Hope. While I think it's simply outstanding if you have a supportive wife about your choice of undergarments, regardless of how she became aware of the issue, I think you may be doing a dis-service to your readers to "out" themselves to their spouse. While your goal is admirable; seeking a more honest, open and comfortable relationship for all parties concerned I don't think the outcome will be what you expect in a majority of cases. In most cases the secret is not a matter of the lingerie so much as it about trust. Broaching an issue that has been kept for a very long time is almost certain to evoke strong emotions that can shred a relationship like a Ronco Salad Spinner does lettuce - fast and furious. Perhaps if you have been in your relationship a relatively short time - 5 years or less for example - it may be something that your partner could deal with and come to accept. If you have a partner of 30 years with grown children, all who have a mental perception of who you are, what you are and how you live your life and you throw a big old secret in there that rocks their image of you... well then you open up avenues of betrayal, absence of truth, embarrassment, shame, failure to understand... you get my drift. At least if you get caught you can argue that it was not something meant to harm, but only hidden to protect the way others perceive you... not the best argument in the world but in this case the truth may set you freer than you want to be. I think we may be on opposite sides of the panty line on this issue Hope. While I think it’s simply outstanding if you have a supportive wife about your choice of undergarments, regardless of how she became aware of the issue, I think you may be doing a dis-service to your readers to “out” themselves to their spouse. While your goal is admirable; seeking a more honest, open and comfortable relationship for all parties concerned I don’t think the outcome will be what you expect in a majority of cases.
In most cases the secret is not a matter of the lingerie so much as it about trust. Broaching an issue that has been kept for a very long time is almost certain to evoke strong emotions that can shred a relationship like a Ronco Salad Spinner does lettuce – fast and furious.
Perhaps if you have been in your relationship a relatively short time – 5 years or less for example – it may be something that your partner could deal with and come to accept. If you have a partner of 30 years with grown children, all who have a mental perception of who you are, what you are and how you live your life and you throw a big old secret in there that rocks their image of you… well then you open up avenues of betrayal, absence of truth, embarrassment, shame, failure to understand… you get my drift.
At least if you get caught you can argue that it was not something meant to harm, but only hidden to protect the way others perceive you… not the best argument in the world but in this case the truth may set you freer than you want to be.

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