Are You Hiding Your Lingerie Wearing?

This is the core issue that made me start writing about the whole topic of men who wear lingerie. Back when I was introduced to the concept, I was also introduced to the fact that many men who wear women’s underwear hide it from their partners and lead shadow lives, hiding a part of themselves that seems to grow and consume them the more it is pushed back into the dark depths of their psyche.

If you’re a man who loves to wear lingerie and also loves a woman who is clueless to the fact there’s a good chance that you spend a fair amount of time agonizing guiltily over your secret and fearing what might happen if the truth were ever to come out.

Believe it or not, life doesn’t have to be that way. Wearing lingerie isn’t the terrible dark secret you might think it is. I can’t guarantee that every woman will greet the news that you wear panties with joy, but I am pretty confident that you’ll be better off in the long run if you’re open about your love of lingerie.

Want to know more? Read on… Are You In The Panty Closet?

2 thoughts on “Are You Hiding Your Lingerie Wearing?

  1. Mikki

    I think we may be on opposite sides of the panty line on this issue Hope. While I think it’s simply outstanding if you have a supportive wife about your choice of undergarments, regardless of how she became aware of the issue, I think you may be doing a dis-service to your readers to “out” themselves to their spouse. While your goal is admirable; seeking a more honest, open and comfortable relationship for all parties concerned I don’t think the outcome will be what you expect in a majority of cases.
    In most cases the secret is not a matter of the lingerie so much as it about trust. Broaching an issue that has been kept for a very long time is almost certain to evoke strong emotions that can shred a relationship like a Ronco Salad Spinner does lettuce – fast and furious.
    Perhaps if you have been in your relationship a relatively short time – 5 years or less for example – it may be something that your partner could deal with and come to accept. If you have a partner of 30 years with grown children, all who have a mental perception of who you are, what you are and how you live your life and you throw a big old secret in there that rocks their image of you… well then you open up avenues of betrayal, absence of truth, embarrassment, shame, failure to understand… you get my drift.
    At least if you get caught you can argue that it was not something meant to harm, but only hidden to protect the way others perceive you… not the best argument in the world but in this case the truth may set you freer than you want to be.

  2. Hope Post author

    Hey Mikki, thanks for commenting again :) It’s okay to be on opposite sides of the panty line, and its good to have both views here too. I can only ever write from my perspective, and I am well aware that any advice I give is only going to be useful for some people some of the time.

    Personally I think that it is only fair to tell your partner about the things in your world that are important to you. Intimacy is built on trust, and having a secret panty world can erode both very quickly if it is discovered. Even if it isn’t, the festering secret can take its toll on a relationship.

    That said, what works for you, works for you. It is not my intent or place to pass judgment, simply to encourage people to be themselves and enjoy themselves, be that with others or alone.

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