This came in the form of a letter, but the writer was kind enough to let me share it with everyone. Hopefully this will inspire those of you perhaps feeling as if lingerie and relationships just can’t mix.

Hi Hope,

I’ve been reading your hubs for years now and your point of view helped me to further understand myself as a lingerie wearing man. I was married for a little over five years and it came to an end for various reasons, but one of them was that I was not honest with my ex about wearing lingerie. I look back on it now, some three years later and own my part in the breakdown of my marriage however, I am now with a wonderful woman who understands, accepts and encourages my lingerie wearing! We are both second timers and when we met and knew the relationship was going places, we promised to always be honest with each other about everything no matter what. NO secrets this time!

I was able to build up the courage and I explained myself to her and she was fascinated! She didn’t run away or freak out. She took the time to hear me out and understand who I was. It’s been an amazing ride so far! We shop for lingerie together and have a HUGE selection of bras, panties, stockings and the list goes on. Before I met her I mostly stuck with panties and a bra here and there but not often. Now she encourages me to wear bras and loves to see me in them. My sex life has never been better!

What’s even cooler is that she spent some time reading all she could about men like me, and found your sites (here and the Hubs) and it further expanded her understanding. If it wasn’t for people such as yourself, men like me would still be pretty apprehensive about exposing who we really are. I’ve never felt so free and comfortable in a relationship before. I don’t have to hide or keep my collection under lock and key anymore. All of our panties are where they should be; in a dresser. Same with our bras. Our outfits hang in the closet as they should and I have free choice to wear whatever I want, when I want, unless she chooses for me of course!

So, I just wanted to send this off to you to say THANK YOU and to let you know another one of your readers/fans made it to the promised panty land by finding an amazing, supportive woman who just lets me be me.

If you like interesting panties complete with charming patterns, but find such panties to be difficult to obtain in a size of your liking, you might want to check out these patterned panties, which come in everything from houndstooth to chocolate zebra and beyond. These panties also come with matching bras, so you can put together a very unique panty set. If wild animal colors don’t appeal, there are some very nice muted designs to choose from as well. This is definitely a range worth viewing.

Patterned panties for men, view the full range here!

A little silky something for those exotic nights… (any night can be exotic if you put your mind to it, all you need is a pineapple and some nice lingerie – and the pineapple is optional.) This little black chemise also comes in raunchy red and a more virginal white. The lace trimmed cups will make the most of any cleavage you care to procure naturally or with the aid of Breast Forms.

(Again, the forms are optional, but if you’re the sort of fellow who likes to play at being a fellowess, or simply explore his feminine side, then the technology is at your disposal.)

Otherwise you can take the opportunity provided by the deep v cut and show off a brassiere. Also going for this sweet chemise is the fact that it is quite short, meaning that a pair of well made panties might very well be flashed as you wear it. So many lingerie options, so many potential outfits yet to be created!

Flawless Satin Chemise

2 PACK: Black Lace Bralette

A bralette is a little lacey introduction to the world of bra wearing. It is subtle, tasteful and does not require you to know your cup size. It is therefore perfect for men who do not have the time to stand about measuring themselves or who have a physique that would render a more developed brassiere useless.

The only significant issue with bralettes is finding one that will fit. You see, a bralette is made under the assumption that a woman is not well endowed. It is made with the assumption that she is slim of figure and needs little support. For that reason, most bralettes will best fit a man with a chest measurement of less than 40 inches.

Hanky Panky boasts a superior range of bralettes, with colors in every conceivable shade. A veritable rainbow of lingerie, as it were. Hanky Panky Signature Lace Bralette

If you are a larger fellow, never fear, for plus sized bralettes are also in existence. In fact, the one I’m about to showcase for your viewing pleasure also comes with a matching pair of lace ruffle panties, and it comes in bright colors too!

Plus Size Stretch Lace Soft Triangle Bralette & Ruffle Thong Set

Bralettes are the perfect way to expand your lingerie inventory and experiment with new forms of lingerie. They’re light, playful, have a low entry cost (the bralettes featured at the top of this article only cost 15 for two) but you can also go all the way up to the top of the quality range and invest in the Hanky Panky bralettes, which have the buttery lace technology, creating bralettes so soft your chest will feel as if it is being caressed by a myriad of silken butterflies every time you make a move.

Elle Macpherson needs no introduction, and neither do her panties. The lingerie line from one of the world’s top supermodels has a reputation for quality, comfort, cut and style. All of those powers are combined here in fine French fancy lace and mesh.

These panties come in a range of styles and shades, so if you don’t like the ‘greystone’ color scheme pictured above you can check out the alternatives, which include pinks, whites, blacks, blues all in interesting, innovative color combinations – plus matching brassieres for the man who likes to put together a complete ensemble.

Elle Macpherson Intimates Dentelle French Knicker Panty

There are so many words in the mere description of these panties that putting words here almost seems redundant. Still, I feel bound to point out the very interesting ‘cross ribbon’ design at the front of these panties, which I haven’t seen on any others that leap to memory. I also really like the almost pin stripe / cable effect of the front panel. It’s like the panties have their own little jersey or something. These are adorable and feminine and oh so pretty. There’s a few more color options displayed in the images below, plus if you’re interested, a matching brassiere!

Betsey Johnson Zipper Stripe Lo Rise Wide Side Thong

Here’s something a little different and a lot fun, a ‘mini cami’ made of lace. It’s not quite a bra, but it is a very exciting entry into the world of chest bound lingerie. Halfway between a brassiere and a camisole, you find this sweet creation. There are no straps to adjust, no back clasps to cause bra lines that might be difficult to explain to the public at large, or to get caught up in other bits and pieces of clothing in awkward fashion. But there is a nice thick band of lace that walks the fine line between drama and comfort. With rave reviews from several satisfied customers, this is a little piece of lingerie you might want to consider.

Piikabu Opaque Lace Mini-Cami on Amazon!

Do you love the look of vintage panties but don’t want to shell out for the real thing? These modern made vintage style briefs are gorgeous. They are very high waisted and highly reminiscent of pin up style lingerie. The black contrast trim extends around the rear of the panties into a triangular point that is quite interesting from a style perspective. Those men who prefer a 1950′s feel to their undergarments are sure to fall head over heels for these panties, which also come with a matching brassiere.

These panties are available on Amazon.com…

The panty and bra set (along with additional images) can be found on Her Room…

American Apparel is notorious for making clothing that doesn’t really fit the majority of women over the age of 18. They tend to design for the narrow of hips and the relatively flat of chest – which is why their bras are perfect for male wearers on the slimmer side. I call them bras and indeed, they call them bras, but they’re not really bras in the traditional sense of the word in that they don’t so much offer support as a general covering of lace.

The three bras above, in order from left to right:

American Apparel Stretch Lace Diamond Grid Bra

American Apparel Nylon Spandex Micro-Mesh Triangle Cross-Back Bra

American Apparel Stretch Floral Lace Ruched Front Tube Bra

And one more for luck…

American Apparel Stretch Floral Lace Bra

Bright red panties are always an eye catcher, and for reasons best known to the elves that run the lingerie industry, relatively rare throughout most of the year, save for certain occasions that need not be named. These gorgeous ‘Awareness’ panties from Wacoal come in both crimson and iris orchid (a pale purple, if you find the red too brash and glaring.)

Wacoal has a reputation for producing lingerie that is second to none in terms of quality and comfort, so you’re in good hands when you purchase a pair of Wacoal panties. The ones pictured here are made from a special blend called ‘tactel’ nylon, which is a type of nylon created to have a similar feel to cotton. Unlike other nylon, which can cling and cause the wearer to become sweaty, tactel nylon dries eight times as fast as cotton, is three times as resilient and is twice as soft as other similar fibers. In non scientific terms, that means wearing panties made of this type of nylon is not unlike wearing a gentle summer’s breeze about your nether regions.

Click here for more about these Wacoal intimates…

Another line of panties with a wonderful name, the playful promises panty series is a delightfully skimpy and softly feminine line of undergarments that are sure to enchant anyone seeking a silky feminine touch. Today I’m featuring the silk corsage bra and panty set.

Let’s start with the panties first.

Usually one would pin a corsage to the breast region, or perhaps wear it upon one’s wrist, but I think you’re going to want to wear these panties as panties because to do anything else would be to miss out on their soft, silky embrace.

Click here for the playful promises silk panties…

Now, the brassiere.

This is an interesting item of lingerie, not solely because of the light and frilly design, but because it appears to have been made with those who either don’t have natural breasts, or at the very least, very small breasts in mind. It comes in small, medium and large, which is a lingerie manufacturer’s way of telling you that it’s about as supportive as some wet tissue paper in a high wind. No, this is a brassiere designed to do one thing: keep its playful promises and bring pleasure to the wearer.

Click here for the playful promises silk corsage brassiere…

If you’re going to buy panties from anyone, it may as well be from someone who named their line of lingerie ‘Lipo in a Box’. These lace trimmed, full brief panties come in a variety of patterns and colors, blasting old assumptions about the proper shades of lingerie out of the water. There’s the candy pink panties and a whole range of alternative styles, some with animal prints, some with floral prints, some with a restrained black satin finish. Oh, and for those of you who enjoy wearing brassieres, all of these innovative panties come with matching brassieres.

There were two particular styles that stood out to me, codenamed ‘Rachel’ and ‘Tiffany’. I do adore it when people give items of lingerie women’s names. It’s very fractal in a way, as in ‘I put a woman’s name on your women’s panties so you can…. I don’t know… wear women’s panties with a woman’s name.’

Click here to check out “TIFFANY” by Lipo in a Box

And click here to make the acquaintance of “RACHEL” by Lipo in a Box